Parents Communication - Judges 13:6-11
September 7, 2022, 9:00 AM

Then the woman went to her husband and told him, “A man of God came to me. He looked like an angel of God, very awesome. I didn’t ask him where he came from, and he didn’t tell me his name. But he said to me, ‘You will become pregnant and have a son. Now then, drink no wine or other fermented drink and do not eat anything unclean, because the boy will be a Nazirite of God from the womb until the day of his death.’” Then Manoah prayed to the Lord: “Pardon your servant, Lord. I beg you to let the man of God you sent to us come again to teach us how to bring up the boy who is to be born.” God heard Manoah, and the angel of God came again to the woman while she was out in the field; but her husband Manoah was not with her. 10 The woman hurried to tell her husband, “He’s here! The man who appeared to me the other day!” 11 Manoah got up and followed his wife. When he came to the man, he said, “Are you the man who talked to my wife?” 

I don’t want to read more in the passage than is intended, but there is recorded the communication between Manoah and his wife that implies a deep and trusting relationship. It was her desire to immediately share this news with her husband. He was her confidant. Put yourself in her shoes, when she spoke to someone, she thought was a man of God. She told her husband, who was also too old to have a child.

Ladies were not taken seriously in that society. The point is that God chose to reveal His will and His purpose through a woman. There are some offended, thinking it is only through men that God gives His word. I am not willing to prescribe what God can and cannot do, or what we should or should not do. I would rather describe God’s actions as they are recorded in the Bible that describe God’s actions. If chooses to communicate His message to a woman, then so be it. 

Communication in marriage is considered to be the most important thing to keep a marriage growing and glowing. The couples who come back from a marriage seminar retreat are especially excited over new information on communication; how they might say things that should be said in ways that will make the marriage stronger. There are things that can be learned.  

Are you committed to making a strong marriage? That affects your whole family. The best parents children can have are parents who love each other and are willing to talk things out and work out differences between them in a healthy and trusting manner. This happens even before children are born.   

Marriages go over bumps, disappointments, and challenges. Problems of life are not quickly pieced together, but relationships that are built on sharing during all times are relationships that work hard on patching things up. Those couples do not quit. They are thinking of new and better ways of making it work through love, communication, trust and talking. Too often, it is generally the wife that must first go to the husband.  

Manoah went to her husband. Men have hang-ups with sharing. That is why one reason many men face problems of dying on the average of six years earlier than women. They experience more heart failure, stress, tension and anxiety. Sharing helps release those inward tensions that are kept bottled up. Problems individuals are unwilling to face and resolve cause horrible stress upon one’s body and mind. Incidences of divorce lessen when both parties mature enough to persistently work on a relationship that desires to communicate and share.  

Manoah never doubted his wife. He believed her and wanted to see for himself. Communication is even more important with the Father who is in heaven. It is to the Lord they turned and prayed for clarification of their responsibilities.

Application: Ask the Lord to show you where you need to be more honest in your relationship with your mate and others.

Prayer: Word of God speak over my life. Let my marriage and all relationships be based on honesty and trust.